Mildred (Grandma)

This weekend we spent some time in Oklahoma to say goodbye my grandma. She has lived an incredible 87 years but will probably not live a lot longer. About 2 months ago she began what we thought was a mild treatment for cancer. Unfortunately, it got her down and weak and she doesn't have the fight to continue. In reality since the death of her oldest son in February 1998, she has longed to be with him. In experiencing this event, I've come to realize that it is never easy to lose a parent. It seems that one of the things that may be more difficult would be to lose a child. When there is more than one person involved in making decisions it only complicates things more. Everyone wants the best, but everyone handles their emotions very differently. One thing has been evident, my grandma loved deeply and many people loved her in return.

She wrote endless letters to her kids and grandkids and it is apparent by the letters she received in return. She wrote neat notes on each card to remember things. I got her Bible that she has read faithfully everyday and looked through it. There are YEARS of notes in there and the wisdom is priceless. Mildred has been the matriarch of quite a family- 3 kids (and spouses), 8 grandkids (and 8 spouses), and 15 great grandchildren so far (with 2 more on the way). She is the spiritual cornerstone, daily praying for each one. She has been through many mountains and valleys and always come through with a stronger faith. I have admired her courage to tackle faith questions that most older people aren't willing to consider.

It was an honor to spend some precious time with her her this weekend. I will always remember these moments.